Today, Cosette would be 16 months old. I was so excited to see her reaction to all the Christmas things (the zoo, the museum, Christmas lights, Santa, reindeer, and opening presents.) I know she would have loved them all. The last few weeks have been tough as I've tried to keep with doing those same things with Ally. She is at the age where it is exciting and she understands that she is getting presents as well as giving them to others. She is excited and I am so excited for her. She's been talking about everyone that is going to be giving her presents and what she thinks they'll be giving her. Hopefully she's not too disappointed about not getting certain things. One of those things would be a dog. She keeps saying that daddy is getting her a dog for Christmas. Sorry, sweetie, that is not on the list THIS year, maybe next year when we have a house. I brought a few Santa presents with us to Matts parents house and kept a few at home. When we get home she'll get to open the presents from us as well as presents from Santa. That way he visited her home as well as dropped presents off for her where she was sleeping. Not like she understands any of that. I'm really hoping that the nasty weather holds off at least until tomorrow afternoon, that way we can get to my moms house safely.
So I am going to throw a question out to any of you who feel like answering it. Who do you think takes care of the little babies that still needed to be watched over and held when they were on earth, but are now in heaven? Does that make sense? My main question would be who is watching and caring for Cosette, but also, who is taking care of the babies that only lived a short time on earth? Are the women that weren't able to conceive or given the opportunity to conceive watching over our little babies? Is our Heavenly Mother able to watch over and care for them herself, if she's the one caring for them? I ask this question because as a mother I want to know who is watching my sweet girl. I know she is fine and in good hands, but just want to know who is caring for her.
Well I hope you all have a very safe and happy holiday,
Love,
The Horns
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Tashina, there is no "doctrinal" answer for your question that I have been able to find. I too have asked that question many times about my own Tara. I don't know if children that die as babies and such are still infants in heaven, or if they are at some sort of "prime age." If there are indeed babies and infants in heaven though then I am sure aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, etc would love to watch after your dear Cosette. I do know that when I think of Tara, and during specific experiences and times, I have envisioned her not as a baby but as a young girl capable of understanding and old enough to have the ability to follow along with the events of our family and provide comfort when needed. I will tell you that when I have heard her voice it is not the voice of an infant but that of a girl or young woman. Sorry I don't have an answer for ya, only more thoughts and questions to ponder...I'll look around a little deeper and see what I can find.
Tashina,
Our very 1st granddaughter.
I truly believe that MY mother, your great grandmother is taking care of Cosette. She loved her family and was the peace maker in our home.
She died in August of 1952 and was ill for two years prior to that, bedridden at the last. Her first grand-son was born in May of 1952 and she liked to have him laid on her bed so she could just watch him.
I miss having my mother when I was growing up as I was just 14 when she died but I know now that we will be together again someday. We have had all her church work done and I believe that she has accepted it.
Wish we were closer so I could hug you but I am glad that we are not in the snow and ice.
Love you bunches,
Grandma
Tashina, I'm with grandma. I think they are met on the other side by all our relatives and God. and tickled pink to love on them until we meet again.
Don't they say that you'll be able to raise Cosette on the other side? I know women who lost babies before they were born and they believe they'll raise them on the other side. I imagine she's with family who's always loved her and probably knew her before she came to you.
I found your blog through Angels Among Us. I think your daughter must have been so sweet. I know it has been hard for me to understand. I don't think there is an exact answer, more like faith. It is really hard for me to picture my son as an adult spirit, so I just remember him the way I knew him. I know they are being taken care of, and I like to think that other family members who have passed have been able to meet up wih him.
I also question whether we will be reunited with them right when we die, or if I then still have to wait.
Thank you for your post. Cosette must have touched so many lives.
Melissa
Chris and I have asked this question too because we too want to know. There are a couple places that we have found answers to our questions.
One is in the book, Doctrines of Salvation by Joseph Fielding Smith, Vol. 2. On page 56 it says,
"CHILDREN IN THE RESURRECTION. When a baby dies, it goes back into the spirit world, and the spirit assumes its natural form as an adult, for we were all adults before we were born.
When a child is raised in the resurrection, the spirit will enter the body and the body will be the same size as it was when the child died. It will then grow after the resurrection to full maturity to conform to the size of the spirit.
If parents are righteous, they will have their children after the resurrection. Little children who die, whose parents are not worthy of an exaltation, will be adopted into the families of those who are worthy."
This has brought us a lot of comfort because we know that if we do everything we are supposed to here and live the best life we can and repent, then we will have the opportunity to raise our sweet daughter again. The same for you and Matt. Here are a couple more quotes I found that may help.
Page 54, Doctrines of Salvation
"We were all mature spirits before we were born, and the bodies of little children will grow after the resurrection to the full stature of the spirit, and all the blessings will be theirs through their obedience, the same as if they had lived to maturity and received them on the earth."
Another quote that you have probably heard comes from the Prophet Joseph Smith. "The Lord takes many away even in infancy, that they may escape the envy of man, and the sorrows and evils of this present world; they were too pure, too lovely, to live on earth; therefore, if rightly considered, instead of mourning we have reason to rejoice as they are delivered from evil, and we shall soon have them again."
I hope that some of these quotes will help answer some of your questions. I too have many questions and I know it will take a long time for some of them to be answered. I hope that you continue to feel sweet Cosette near. She is a darling, darling little girl and is so blessed to be in such a wonderful family. Please let me know if I can ever do anything for you and your family.
I'm with the others. I think Grandma Shue is having a blast with Cosette. I remember her watching Matt for me when he was young. When Kim came along, Grandma didn't feel she was able to babysit anymore for fear of falling but she loved to see the kids and have them visit. She told me more than once, "I loved my children. I adored my grandchilden. But I know why these are called GREAT grandchildren." I often think of my other grandma, Moremom, and how much she loved to play with the kids. I know both of them as well as Pop and Grandpa Shue are there to entertain Cosette and lavish her with all the love and hugs she could possibly stand.
Hi Tashina and Matt, I have pondered tonight your question, (actually Allery pointed it out to me earlier this week) and want you to know that Sis. Hammond and I pray in your behalf for comfort and understanding of this life changing event. Of course I am not at liberty to speak for God and what his plans are for you. I can only give you my thoughts. I would refer you to the two scriptures below and simply say that Cosette dwells in celestial glory with all those who have attained the same. As I read these scriptures it only stands to reason that she dwells there, watched over by a loving Heavenly Father, and a kind and compassionate elder brother, Jesus Christ. And because others of your family have passed on and more than likely dwell in this same kingdom, they too must certainly have the opportunity to share in her care. Also remember that this time for both of you is being measured in earthly years and will appear as a long time before a reunion takes place. The reality of it is however that in the time measurements of God Cosette's reuniting timeframe is measured in minutes and seconds. We love you both and know your aching hearts will be soothed by the healing "Balm of Giliad" even that great love of Christ.
Mike Hammond
D&C 137: 10
10 And I also beheld that all children who die before they arrive at the years of accountability are saved in the celestial kingdom of heaven.
Alma 28: 12
12 While many thousands of others truly mourn for the loss of their kindred, yet they rejoice and exult in the hope, and even know, according to the promises of the Lord, that they are raised to dwell at the right hand of God, in a state of never-ending happiness.
Tashina,
I am a member of your angel blog and I had that same question about 9 months after my son died. I was sitting in sacrament meeting watching someone try to soothe their crying child and I all of a sudden I started bawling (didn't help that I was 7 months pregnant at the time)and started wondering who took care of Ethan when he was sad, I am his mommy and I was not there to take care of him. The whole thought really tugged at my heart for weeks, and in a way almost 6 years after his death still does, but I do believe he is surrounded by people who love and adore him and he can feel my love for him. I also believe like someone mentioned that he is not a 2 year old right now. One of the few comforting things in the passing of my father in law is that Ethan has his "Papa" to play with now. Don't know if this helps, but it is a very real emotion that you are feeling.
Karen
Cosette will most definitely be resurrected as a child, at her current age, and you will have the privilege and honor of raising her during the millennium. What a special privilege that is, not everyone will have the honor of raising a child in a world free from temptations, trials, and pain. What a happy day that will be!
Tashina, I've been thinking about your question. I don't know whether this helps or not, but these are my thoughts.
(My Own Thought)
Spirits don't have an age. Cosette was fine in heaven before she came here and she's fine in heaven now. I like to think we are with the same spirits we were with before we came to earth. Spending time with family and doing the things Christ has given for us to do.
It is our earthly bodies that have an age and our earthly bodies that need to be tended as infants.
(Fact)
In the millenium we will be reunited, spirit with earthly body. Since Cosette's body is still in the stage "of needing care" she will be given back to you to raise "in the twinkling of an eye". Remembering that time has different meanings and definitions.
I don't know if this helps, and I know I wasn't eloquent, but I believe that all her needs are met. That there is no reason to worry about her well being while she is away from you for this period.
Christ loves children and blesses each and every one of them - even today.
I had this same unsettling question for a few weeks after the passing of my Evan. I was definitely NOT at peace. I'm only okay now as I've read/heard the same quotes from Joseph F. Smith as you got below. Unfortunately, gospel knowledge doesn't lessen the pain of loosing a child. May God grant us strength to grieve as we miss our children.
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